to a dear friend of mine...
A dear friend of mine (whom just got out from a relationship last month) asked me the other day, how I successfully muddled through the dark days after I broke up with my boyfriend; since from where she stands, she can see that I was so strong during those days. My answer to her was simple; TIME. To be frank, I was never as strong as what it seems, I cried, I wept, I can’t eat, can’t sleep, u name it, I went through it. But then as the time comes, the misery fades away.
Second question she asked me, how long does it takes to be OK, to be able to forget. My answer to her was PATIENCE. There were times when I thought I’m OK, but I cried the next second. I was so sick of myself for not to be able to forget him. There were times when I woke up in the morning and felt empty inside, and I forced myself to go back to sleep, just to avoid thinking of him. As days gone by, I thaught my self to be patience, to accept the loss must be a good thing, a test from Allah S.W.T., and believe there must be better things behind every misery Allah S.W.T gave us (and it is so true). I’ve told my friend to be patient and one day you’ll wake up in the morning and the empty feeling is gone, just like that. It happened to me.
Third question, did I ever have REGRETS? Yes, and no. I’m not regret for knowing him, not regret for losing 5 years relationship just like that, not regret for every stupid things I did during the relationship, not regret for losing him to my own so call friend. So, what is yes for? Regret of losing a friend. But then, was it worth it? Was it really worth it for me to feel regret for the loss? Hmm… nahh..!!! I’m better off without the relationship anyway..!!
As a result from her loss, she lost her FAITH towards other people. She was not the first person I met with the same problem. Lots o’ woman I know lost their faith towards men after a broken relationship. To her I said, to trust people is hard, but to gain other people trust is even harder, and not to trust other people make it even harder…So, to you my dear friend, for the 12 years of knowing you, I can say he is not worth even for a single tear of yours. And ohh.. come on, you are so on top of yer life. Having good job with good salary, able to buy any dress you saw at any boutiques, people look up at you. We look up at you!
Second question she asked me, how long does it takes to be OK, to be able to forget. My answer to her was PATIENCE. There were times when I thought I’m OK, but I cried the next second. I was so sick of myself for not to be able to forget him. There were times when I woke up in the morning and felt empty inside, and I forced myself to go back to sleep, just to avoid thinking of him. As days gone by, I thaught my self to be patience, to accept the loss must be a good thing, a test from Allah S.W.T., and believe there must be better things behind every misery Allah S.W.T gave us (and it is so true). I’ve told my friend to be patient and one day you’ll wake up in the morning and the empty feeling is gone, just like that. It happened to me.
Third question, did I ever have REGRETS? Yes, and no. I’m not regret for knowing him, not regret for losing 5 years relationship just like that, not regret for every stupid things I did during the relationship, not regret for losing him to my own so call friend. So, what is yes for? Regret of losing a friend. But then, was it worth it? Was it really worth it for me to feel regret for the loss? Hmm… nahh..!!! I’m better off without the relationship anyway..!!
As a result from her loss, she lost her FAITH towards other people. She was not the first person I met with the same problem. Lots o’ woman I know lost their faith towards men after a broken relationship. To her I said, to trust people is hard, but to gain other people trust is even harder, and not to trust other people make it even harder…So, to you my dear friend, for the 12 years of knowing you, I can say he is not worth even for a single tear of yours. And ohh.. come on, you are so on top of yer life. Having good job with good salary, able to buy any dress you saw at any boutiques, people look up at you. We look up at you!
posted by \(^o^)/ at 5/31/2005 08:11:00 am
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